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S.M.A.R.T. and S.T.U.P.I.D.: Teaching My Child HOW to Think - Part 7

Updated: Oct 5, 2020


S = Snap

T = Total

U = Unquestioned

P = Passive

I = Ideologically Filtered

D = Dogmatic

Sign #6 of S.T.U.P.I.D. Thinking

D = Dogmatic Judgments


The sixth sign that alerts me to my own S.T.U.P.I.D. thinking is when my judgments are dogmatic.


Snap judgments.


Total judgments.


Unquestioned judgments.


Passive judgments.


Ideologically filtered judgments.


Dogmatic judgments.



What does it mean to be dogmatic?


We are being dogmatic when we demand others to be COMPLETELY OPEN to our opinions while we simultaneously are COMPLETELY CLOSED to their opinions.


An approach of "You MUST listen to me!" combined with "I WON'T" listen to you!"


An attitude of "I'm right, you're wrong. Therefore, I'm good and you're bad."



How do I know if I'm being dogmatic?


You know your being dogmatic when your first impulse is to yell rather than to listen.


You know your being dogmatic when your first impulse is to judge rather than to love.


You know your being dogmatic when your first impulse is ego and pride rather than humility.


You know your being dogmatic when your first impulse is to attack and dominate rather than to befriend and serve.


You know your being dogmatic when your first impulse is to win a debate rather than a mutually profitable discussion.


You know your being dogmatic when your first impulse is “case closed” rather than “let’s open the case.”


Dogmatic.



My thinking is S.T.U.P.I.D. when I emotionally and dogmatically explode on anyone with a differing viewpoint.


My arrogance, my anger, and even my words again reflect the four “I’s”:


· “You’re an idiot. Only a stupid person would believe that.”

· “You’re so ignorant. Get an education moron. My IQ is lowering my just being in your presence.”

· “You’re just insane! They should lock you up. You don’t even belong in a sane world.”

· “You’re immoral. You’re a bad person.”


When we respond this way, it is clear that truth is not our highest priority. Domination is. We want the high ground. We want to be the judge, not the judged. We want our team to win.


We fool ourselves into believing that our dogmatic, authoritative sounding judgments make us right. That we have earned the “right” to explode on people and call them names.


Throwing out “power-play” phrases like the four “I’s,” is our manipulation technique to get the dominant position. We must instantly assume the position of the judge before we become the judged. We must blast people with a judgment before they judge us. We must blame them before they blame us.


Therefore, we become dogmatic as quickly as possible. The obsession with being right and having the "high ground," can turn us into pretty nasty people.


And since 21st century humans less frequently resolve their dominance hierarchy disputes through physical altercation and violence, it gets settled in a war of words.


Hence, the need to be dogmatic. I have to be the smart one. "You’re stupid. I'm right. You’re wrong." Therefore, I'm giving you a label because it is my wolf-like way of putting "my paw" on your head and declaring dominance over you.


Bad thinking. S.T.U.P.I.D. thinking.


Being dogmatic exposes our true motives. Truth is not the goal. Dominance and control are the goal.


The result is that we all become S.T.U.P.I.D. in our thinking. We become obsessed with being right. We turn into M.A.D. (Mean. Angry. Disrespectful.) people who scorn any differing opinion that challenges us.


Snap judgments.


Total judgments.


Unquestioned judgments.


Passive judgments.


Ideologically filtered judgments.


Dogmatic judgments.



These are the six signs I can look for IN MYSELF when I suspect that my thinking is S.T.U.P.I.D.


The brutal reality in all this: none of these six things represent thinking at all.


They are simply emotional triggers reacting defensively against information contrary to my mental training and programming.


All 6 of these signs reflect an individual who has been taught WHAT to think and doesn’t know HOW to think. Someone who has an indoctrinated mind, not a truly educated mind.


Me, for the first 30 years of life.


Thankfully, for the last 15 years or so in my life, I’ve been learning how to think. And I’m still learning.


What then are the five signs of S.M.A.R.T. thinking?


Let me finish this post by again giving the whole acronym and then I will break it down in the next and final post of this series.


When encountering new information, I know my thinking is S.M.A.R.T. when I am:


S = Suspending Judgment

- Instead of making snap judgments.

M = Middle in my starting place

- Instead of making total judgments.

A = Asking questions exhaustively

- Instead of making unquestioned, passive judgments.

R = Recognizing biases

- Instead of making ideologically filtered judgments.

T = Tolerant

- Instead of making dogmatic judgments.


Next time: S.M.A.R.T. and S.T.U.P.I.D.: Teaching My Child How to Think - Part 8.

S.M.A.R.T. Thinking.

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